The Toronto Star (via Monoklon.de):
“Men, looking for the perfect Christmas present? How about giving up pornography? It’s the best present you could give your wife this year. […] But the crowning argument against pornography is the damage it does to relationships with loved ones. That is what motivates this particular column. The reason I highlight pornography here is because I keep running into it as a pastor. I keep encountering couples whose marriages have been shaken by the husband’s secret – and, inevitably, discovered – use of pornography.”
Feck, I’m doomed. :p
Yes, I am interested in porn. Not 24/7, not in every type, but sometimes it’s kinda … nice … to have access to the biggest library of free porn on the planet, errm, I mean, to the internet. And let me tell you one thing: I think every man who claims to have never looked at porn, or claims to not find it appealing in some way (mind you, there are several levels and types of porn), is lying. My opinion. Porn is made by men (mostly) especially for men (mostly), so it’s supposed to appeal mostly to men, on a very subtle level. There’s nothing you can do about it, if it’s “good” pornography (i.e. delivered in the right way for your subconciousness), your mind and your body will react to it. You can’t suppress it, so why bother to try.
I agree that consuming too much porn or the wrong type of porn can be dangerous to a relationship, but hell, it’s the same with alcohol or slasher movies. Everything can be dangerous …even seemingly harmless things like fly fishing. If the husband is spending all of his spare time on the river fishing, or in front of the TV filling himself up with barrels of bad american pseudo-beer, his wife might actually leave him after a while. Recap: Yes, porn can be a threat to a relationship, but there are a lot of things it can’t do. It might be able to give you a cheap kick, but it’ll never be as good as the real thing, and it’ll never replace the love in a relationship. It’s cool every now and then, but if has priority over making love with your better half, then you have other problems anyways and should see a psychiatrist. ;)
Talking freely with your wife about watching porn every now and then might help as well. I do - it’s nothing wrong with watching bad actors having idiotic lines (favourite quote: “Uuuuh, now what do we have here?” - it’s your damn job to know for sure, stupid!) and making out, as long as you stay within healthy boundaries.
So, porn is nothing more like a tool you can use to get a cheap kick, but it’s definitely not the devil per se and this article is pathetic. :P
